Funny As Cancer
Without researching it, I’ll bet that cancer in Colorado is no funnier than cancer in New Hampshire, but I can only speak for the Granite State and my lung tumor.
Google reveals that no one living here has ever said “as funny as cancer in New Hampshire.” That’s why I must say it now, living and writing as your native nurse humorist-tumorist.
The ER doc unceremoniously said, “You have a mass on your lung.” With an inspired aplomb that only a New Englander would appreciate, I said, “I’m assuming you don’t mean Massachusetts.”
Bang. Pow. Zoom. (I’m reserving exclamation points for the first finale of my second act, and that’s my first living-with-cancer-in-New-Hampshire inside joke).
When I heard my diagnosis, the words “Live Free or Die” shifted from the affairs of my state to my state of affairs, and immediately became my adopted up-close-and-personal motto. I felt like a rock-tumbled Old Man of the Valley as an internal voice interrupted my shock: “Wait. Could you spare a minute for mortality?” Why, yes, I could but — funny as cancer?
My training and 35-year career as a bedside care nurse taught me that humor is as essential to healing as not getting there is from here.
I had cancer, so I did what only a New Hampshirite would do: Started a wicked pissah cancer blog, made a Fluffernutter and washed it down with a frappe. Massachusettsans will claim the latter as theirs, but they do things like that.
I then began searching my muse for the lighter side of what I knew would be hauling a heavy load down a long road.
I’ve attended to many patients with cancer, so I know the lie of its rugged landscape and many perils. But, when it’s my trip as amateur pilot, not professional navigator? Funny as cancer? Here, in a state where freedom or death is a mandate?
Yes. Especially here.
First chore? Name my tumor. Men do this. We personalize our body parts and functions, errant and otherwise, and women will never understand it, beginning with the otherwise devoted wife lying next to me. She thinks it’s weird.
I needed both radiation and chemotherapy, so I came up with “Rad Chemo.” Great moniker for a body-ambushing villain, and it kept with our New Hampshire tradition of seriously naming funny locales.
My sympathies and apologies to the residents of Effingham, who undoubtedly live with a year-round tongue-in-cheek at the ready for any inquiring tourists. Effingham has always sounded to me like something expletively done to a ham.
Or, when you think Kanca, is it suffixed with Mangus or Magus? Forever funny, and even we can’t decide.
I was also inspired by other typically New Hampshire seriously funny things: Squirrel-proof birdfeeders (ha!), no-see-ums, wearing shorts with winter coats, and no-faultlessly driving unlicensed but self-designated road-legal snowmobiles, golf carts and riding mowers to the winter carnivals.
When I began my radiation, I found the spirit of our White Mountain State humor alive and free at Dartmouth-Hitchcock hospital, when they snugged me up and into my treatment table mold with Rad Chemo. I felt like a human skewer hosting a hitchhiking saboteur kabob on a stationary spit as the linear accelerator rotated around us.
The “Radionettes” (the techs I’d so-dubbed because they knew my musical likes and dark sense of humor), played “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” through the overhead speakers.
No, you can’t, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what we need.
B. Elwin Sherman writes from Bethlehem, New Hampshire, and can be seen healing at mycancerdomain.com, where he now seriocomically chronicles the funny side of serious.